Ungrateful Punishment (UgP) happens when one person feels their effort was not appreciated or reciprocated. In other words the end result didn’t meet your expectation.
I see UgP as more of an expectation issue. For instance Person A did something for Person B. Person B didn’t react accordingly nor thank you for it. Person A gets upset. In extreme cases of UgP, not only you’re not thanked but you got yourself into big trouble for this person who repays you by pouring more salt to your wound.
In this scenario, maybe person B is a freeloading asshole? Or maybe person B really wasn’t aware that Person A had that expectation in the first place? Like the Bullying Punishment, this also works both ways. You may need to take a hard look in the mirror to see if you are also unapologetically using others?
A Bullying Punishment person contributes a lot because they carry a subconscious need to be liked. When it’s not reciprocated they feel very ‘victimised’. An Ungrateful Punishment person on the other hand, contributes a lot because they subconsciously want something in return, tangible or otherwise. When it backfires, they feel ‘betrayed’ or unappreciated.
Again, these inconveniences are life lessons that you need to master, namely OPENHEARTEDNESS. You cannot let any setback lock up your heart. The more distrustful and suspicious you become, the more you attract these circumstances. If you want to do something, do it wholeheartedly and then be at peace with whatever the results may be.
Second lesson would be to KNOW YOUR PEOPLE. You’re naturally not very good at filtering the people around you. Because you do have a tendency to give to those who will use you but you take from those who actually give you. Ultimately, not everyone you love will stay, not everyone you trust will be loyal. Some people exist as a lesson to what you should avoid and if it’s time to let them go, let them go.