The Qimen Method: How To Win The Heart of ‘The One’ in 2019

“I realised I was thinking of you, and I began to wonder how long you’d been on my mind. Then it occurred to me, since I met you, you never left…”

This funny little thing called love. It can hit you when you least expect it to, anywhere, at your worst, at your best, at a time when you didn’t think you’ll trust anyone again, at a time when you’ve already sworn off all men/women so that they don’t hurt you anymore, ah, then it appears, just to test you and see if you’ve finally learnt all the lessons the universe has been trying to teach you all these while. I could almost hear the universe watching anxiously and asking itself ‘For the love of god universe, have you finally learned this time??’ 😂

So the conclusion is, humans, when it comes to the love department, tend to lose all rationality and brain function. So when shit hits the fan we turn into emotional wrecks, closing up our hearts because we never want to feel this crappy ever again. The one biggest mistake we can ever make is to let the hurt of your past relationship indirectly sabotage your current potential relationship. This creates that vicious cycle.

Then there is also that group of people who when in love totally freezes up, says the wrong things, do the wrong things, accidentally offend the love of your life and screws up everything like end up being blocked on Facebook *laughs*

Today I’m addressing this group of people (most likely the Pillars and some Grain too), who don’t have smooth pick up lines (because they are the all round straight laced good guys – and girls) and no longer want to screw up everything. If there is one thing I’ve learnt the hard way is that the more smooth talking the man, the more you should be careful in trusting him. In males it’s a bit different, I observed that men have a higher tendency to pick a wrong partner because most of them choose the one that feeds their insecurities in one way or another, regardless if this person is right for them or not OR they choose the one that imposed all the decision on them, and later realise they don’t like this. Personally I prefer the ones who put their foot in their mouth and have no clue what to do – a bit more direct and trustworthy. Same goes to the female for men.

So this is for you so that you don’t screw up again with this fantastic person you’ve just met. This is an advanced technique that you can use. If you have NO CLUE about Qimen whatsoever, kindly ignore the entire article and take a look at my How To Train your Deity series instead.

This technique takes a bit of effort because you do need to know the other person’s hour in order to plot their Qimen Destiny chart like below. If you don’t have the hour then we will use different methods that I’ll discuss on a different post.

The access to this chart will be given to you when you sign up for Qimen Academy which is launching very very soon

Secondly, just take note of the palace/direction of the 6 Harmony, which governs relationships, here the SouthEast.


Then look at this 2019 Qimen Chart below and look for the SouthEast. You only need to take note of the Star, example here Destructor.

2019 Qimen Chart:


So this year, this is what your special someone is looking for in their relationship, regardless of what they tell you. Your mission, which is to win their heart, is to at least know what to do. And this will only work in 2019, you have 6 months before we need to work on a different chart.
2019 Qimen Chart:

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2019 Stars:

So if their Star falls on:

Grain: Nurture

This year your partner or potential partner wants to be nurtured, taken care of. You need to constantly check on them, do things for them and be their biggest supporter, better still be their shoulder to cry on or sounding board.

Bird: Luxury

This year your partner or potential partner wants to taste the life on the high side. Take him/her on pleasure cruises, social parties, fine dining and shower them with sentimental gestures. Skip the roadside stalls or Malaysian favourite Mamak stalls for now.

Hero: Romantic.

This year your partner or potential partner wants to feel the romance with a capital R. Romantic walks in the park/beach, intimate restaurants, grand gestures like lighting 500 tealights with the words ‘I love you’ or strewn rose petals. The keyword here is not expensive, but well thought and meaningful.

Heart: Healing

This year your partner or potential partner is going to be confusing and this is not going to be easy for you. Either they have been really hurt and is taking their time to heal, so being compassionate or giving them space will really help. Yet they don’t want to be pitied, so they act like they only want to have commitment-less fun and look for excitement when it is not. Understanding them is going to be a chore so you are going to need a lot of patience to do this. It’s up to you to decide if they are worth the effort.

Destructor: Challenge

This year your partner or potential partner wants to feel the thrill of the chase. The men chasing and the female being chased. But both wants challenge this year so don’t be too easy. Blow hot and cold, mixed signals, drive them crazy and they will be the one running to you instead.

Assistant: Growth

This year your partner or potential partner wants to grow. They are all about being better, learning new things, having new experiences so travelling together is a good idea. You can ‘accidentally’ sign up the same course as them so that this gives you more time to learn together.

Ambassador: T-R-U-S-T

They most likely had it bad recently so this year they are learning to trust again. Don’t do things to hurt them or betray their trust, even if they are lashing out and are very sensitive/defensive about everything around them due to this lack of trust. Keep a check on them often to know if you’ve accidentally hurt them (cos you may not know it), and if you did, apologize and find ways to earn their trust again.

Pillar: Connection

This year your partner or potential partner wants to connect or reconnect. They want things direct and as transparent as possible if not they can be quite passive aggressive. So open communication is key to getting in the heart of those with Pillar in their 6 Harmony palace this year.

Grass: Sensuality

This year your partner or potential partner is more sexual than usual. Regardless of the status, they will be more touchy feely than usual. So tucking her hair when you talk to her will most likely excite her as much as accidentally brushing your finger against his thigh will excite him. Wear something that really flatters your physicality when going out with them. They long for a physical connection on top of an emotional one.

Have a great year and may you find the love you’re looking for ♥

The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.


One comment

  1. Noel Lunario · August 9


    On Thu, Aug 8, 2019 at 10:45 AM Mind Your Qi by Mindy Yoong wrote:

    > Mindy Yoong posted: “This funny little things called love. It can hit you > when you least expect it to, anywhere, at your worst, at your best, at a > time when you didn’t think you’ll trust anyone again, at a time when you’ve > already sworn off all men/women so that they don’t hu” >


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