The Qimen Method: Relationship Compatibility Part 1

Last year during one of my workshop I introduced a ‘testing’ Qimen compatibility theory using Stars which the students has feedback to me that it didn’t look quite right. So I’ve been researching on how to see Synastry using Qimen and this is the first finding, so far this has been pretty accurate.

The general theory when looking at Friendship or Like-mindedness is when 2 person share the same Destiny palace, at least the same Palace element – Wood and Wood, Fire and Fire, Water and Water, Earth and Earth, Metal and Metal. Producing cycle is still okay.

But when it comes to romantic relationships you should throw in another palace – this involves looking at your Destiny palace and your Relationship palace (6 Harmony) in your Destiny Chart, because that’s usually what you want or how you see and approach relationships. Having someone who has a destiny palace in your relationship palace shows someone you will be attracted to. Having someone who shares the same 6 Harmony palace as you shows someone who shares your same views in a relationship. Same Destiny with Same Relationship Palace is also okay. Note where the palaces and palace elements are.

For example in chart 1 and chart 2 below, Person 1 has the 6 Harmony in the South East palace, and Person 2 is a Destiny Palace of South East. Person 2 is the kind of person Person 1 looks for in a relationship – hence the attraction is high. Person 2’s 6 Harmony does not share the same palace but it still belongs to the same element – hence the natural attraction still there.


When I say Natural Attraction, it just means that the relationship is easier and your tolerance level is higher caused by the like-mindedness in character and views of relationship. If you realize you don’t fit this criteria it just means that you have to exercise tolerance, understanding and give and take a bit more than those who have this. Furthermore relationship is the most complex subject of all and some people (especially those Day Master sitting on 7 Killings), does not like anything Easy anyways.

Producing palace is still okay, but this means one person is always giving more than the other. One very okay with giving and one very okay with taking while complaining – sounds quite normal to me – *laughs*.


The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.


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