The Bazi Method: How We Behave After A Break Up

I’ve been chatting with a friend lately who is eagerly trying to understand their other half better so that their arguments can be reduced to a much healthier level. I love it when people take the time and effort to really understand how their partners function and why. After all, this is the entire reason why I came up with the How To Love series in the first place. I realized in this day and age, empathy and willingness to understand someone else is continuously lacking and will continue to worsen so I consider this my effort to help everyone and anyone to find that middle ground.

So it got to a point where we were talking about how our past really CAN screw up the potential/present relationship. And that led us to talk about past relationships, ex-s and how we actually deal with them. Hopefully by understanding this, we can see some patterns that we can rectify and manage. At the very least, never let your past dictate your future and most importantly, don’t dump your past baggage onto your next great relationship. The other person does not deserve this and certainly does not want you to repeat your vicious cycles also.

So let’s see what we’re looking at today. Open up your chart:

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This is your Relationship Palace, so there can be 1, 2 or 3 stems. The one in Red (Main- Qi) will always dominate. The blue (Sub-Qi) are traits you also carry but not as strong as the Main Qi. So you can read them together but the Red will always dominate.

Just look at the 10 Gods to determine how you will behave after a breakup:

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Direct Officer (DO): Direct officer people are quite hard on themselves after a breakup. Because you don’t understand how giving up and sacrificing almost everything for someone you love can lead to this. So the keyword is: Self-forgiveness. The other thing is don’t fall for their excuses or asking of favors anymore. Because after breakup if they come back or ask you for something, you still graciously comply out of pity or being nice and it’s a good thing that you still know how to set proper boundaries.

7 Killings (7K): When in a relationship 7 Killings people will go all out and do almost everything that can be done. Because they are warriors they are also the ones to stay to fight out every relationship issues with all the battle scars to show for even when it’s clear they should stop. So once they are done, they are really done. There is no turning back. Don’t push them to a point of no return if this is not your intention. Because after a breakup, they cut all ties and will act like the person never existed. Your keyword is to Remove Resentment.

Direct Resource (DR): After a break up, the poor Direct Resource will retreat to reverse engineer every single event that lead to the break up. Every single word, every action to analyse what went wrong. What you could have done? What if this? What if that? Relationship matters are the most difficult to analyse with logic or even common sense so don’t try to. Detach and take it as an additional lesson in life.

Indirect Resource (IR): This one… resorts to denial. Before a breakup they assume that there is no issue and after a break up they also assume the break up never happened. They take a long time to let it sink in and will still cling on to the ex, which is not a very good thing. So your keyword is Acceptance. Move on and learn from the experience. Don’t believe that you will not find the same feeling ever again or you’re setting yourself up for a vicious negative cycle.

Friend (F): When a Friend breaks up they still want to keep everyone as their friend. They think it’s okay to keep everyone around and still do the things they used to do. Their reasoning is that there should not be any hard feelings with anyone but this actually becomes a nightmare for their next partner. So your keyword is Boundaries. Create healthier boundaries with your space and time and love yourself enough to draw a line with the people who didn’t serve your best interest at a point in time. It will eat into your own self esteem if you keep doing that.

Rob Wealth (RW): The thing about Rob Wealth is that the moment they break up, all hell breaks loose. As in, the first thing they do is go out partying like there’s no tomorrow, participate in some sort of vice or they immediately move on by hooking up with the next Rebound guy/girl. The thing about getting a Rebound guys/girls as soon as you break up is that your energy is already at that level, and you’re bound to attract one that is as bad (or even way worse) than your ex. So your keyword is Solitude. Spend some time by yourself, being comfortable with yourself and in no time you’ll be attracting someone way better.

Hurting Officer (HO): Most Hurting Officers have very dramatic breakups. Their arguments can usually escalate to a shouting match as well. So when it’s over, like the 7 Killings, it’s really over. Almost all Hurting Officers sees breakups as a big blow to their self confidence so no, they won’t keep in touch with the ex at all. If anything they already deleted your number and removed you off all social media. So your keyword is: Don’t take it personal

Eating God (EG): Eating God is interesting and also scary at the same time. Because when they were in love with you they knew all the right buttons to press. Now that they’re no longer in love with you, they also know all the wrong buttons to press, just for the heck of it. So if you have an Eating God ex that you’re keeping around for some weird reason, do bear in mind that when the right time comes about, they will find ways and means to sabotage your life. Have fun 🙂 To the Eating God, please exercise: Self Control

Direct Wealth (DW): Direct Wealth people don’t take failures very well. They take it as a huge personal defeat and take an extremely LONG time to get over it. What they can’t get over is that lost of trust and not knowing what is there to trust anymore. Like the Hurting Officer it’s also a huge bruise to their ego. They don’t admit it and look like they’ve gotten over it but have not. So you need to be more in touch with your own feelings instead of lashing out through other means, to other people who don’t deserve to be lashed out on. You can turn very bitter and continuously trying to still prove you are right, so your keyword would be: Release and Let go.

Indirect Wealth (IW): Indirect Wealth people always act like it’s the end of the world – but to be fair, in their own world they do see it as over. So they lock up their hearts and turn cold towards the world as if the entire world owed them something or did them wrong. Then they pretend as if they are heartless and are okay with it like they are resigned to fate and gave up entirely. I don’t know why? So your key word is: Have Faith. Indirect Wealth usually totally give up because they don’t believe they’ll find that sort of passion anymore. You can’t be more wrong.

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The 10 Gods Code: How To Love an Indirect Resource

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This one is quite lovable also, because apart from the Direct Officer (DO) who knows what you want before you even say it, the Indirect Resource (IR) knows what you’re feeling even if you don’t show it. Their natural intuition and keen eye doesn’t miss much, hence their passion for figuring out how everything works and that includes those they love. They love helping whenever then can, however they can and this comes with no boundaries nor intention. They make wonderful healers, social workers, or someone in the medical field, if they didn’t use their magnificent brain power to churn data and predicting market trends instead.

The thing so special about the Indirect Resource is that they are both smart and intuitive at the same time, like somehow their DNA has been wired to have the head and heart work at almost the same ratio. So they are open minded, the ultimate wanderers, want to (safely) enjoy new experiences, observe more, see different things and absorb everything like sponge. This is what makes them feel most alive.

The only thing about them is they can be so inward that they spend a lot of time in their own world. This can translate to day dreaming or overthinking. When you’re so good at analyzing everything, you understand the risk of every single action and this can turn into fear/paranoia instead. You naturally don’t manage this fear that well and can turn a bit pessimistic or melancholy at times.

On the unhealthy side, Indirect Resource knows no boundaries hence they can be seen as eccentric, non practical, rough around the edges and also occasionally, lazy. You don’t take stress very well and the fact that you don’t like sharing your thoughts and feelings much makes this worse.

In love, what’s there not to like about a person who knows everything about you and what your change of mood means before you even say anything? They are as attentive and caring as it can get if you like that sort of thing. Because they can smother you with too much at times (with all the best intentions) but for those hardcore profiles you might find the IR a bit passive for your liking.

If YOU are Indirect Resource: Like the Friend whom are sensitive to anything jeopardizing their image, you are sensitive to just about everything. If the Friend gets offended over a comment, you will get emotionally hurt instead. This hurt is not just confined to things related to you, all it takes is a dead puppy by the roadside or someone who just shared a sob story, that’s it. You’re cute like that. You are very prone to being passive aggressive and resort to other means, like sarcasm or saying things you don’t mean to your loved ones. When they don’t get it, you get even more upset. So try to speak up more even when you’re uncomfortable. Don’t be so paranoid about everything too, sometimes you are just overthinking and it’s not even true. Remember to take care of yourself as much as you enjoy taking care of others.

This also means that you take FOREVER (if even ever) to approach your crush. You are going to regret it if you miss the boat, so for god’s sake, please take that initiative once awhile, they can’t read your mind and may not even know you like them anyways.

How to turn them on: Take note of what they like most, they will be surprised that you paid as much attention as they did. Most IR pick/pursue their partner instead of the other way round because it has to be someone who are enjoy analyzing/interest them THAT much. So I guess just be who you are, they will decide if that’s what they envision in a spouse. Learning is great too, they love anything to do with their hands, suggest some yoga, art, meditation, metaphysics, psychology classes with them and take that opportunity to spend that time together. They need that sort of time and reassurance before you even earn their trust. You need to encourage them to speak out more too, subtly. They only open up to those who can give them 3 things they crave: Trust, Comfort level and Assurance.

How to turn them off: They are the slow and steady type, so don’t ever rush them, pressure them and don’t scare them. Giving them ultimatums will most likely backfire on you. Although they do love learning and enjoying new experiences, they avoid anything with too much adrenaline rush or involves high risk. They are not risk takers. Kill a cat in front of them.. haha *kidding!!* that would turn a LOT of profiles off, not just this one 🙂 On that note, people who have no compassion, be it to humans or animals are a no-no on their list. Lie… *laughs* They already know that you’re lying anyways, so it really really upsets them.

What to buy for them: Something of sentimental value like making them a bracelet, personalized gifts, bake them their favorite cake and just a cozy dinner under the stars. Psychology, stock trading, arts, metaphysics classes, for TWO! ♥

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The 10 Gods Code: How To Love a 7 Killings

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Ah….the ultimate bad boys and girls. Seven Killings (7K) are usually the rule breakers, the charismatic leader, general, go getter, always carrying that powerful aura which you don’t know if you should be afraid of them or be in awe with them. Either ways, you’ll definitely notice them the moment they walk into a room.

So, you’re in love with one? Good luck to you 🙂

7 Killings are also adrenaline junkies who loves living life on the fast lane, the one that gives you the regular heart attack with their unpredictable and reckless antics. Even their driving is enough to scare you. No matter in traditional or modern society context, 7 Killings are still called ‘Problems’, they attract it, they manage it and this is what makes them fantastic problems solvers. They never shy away from challenges, in fact if you dare, try and challenge them and see what happens.

The thing about 7 Killings is that they REALLY love a good challenge. If you’re going to challenge them they are going to make sure that they beat you fair and square – losing is not really an option. On the unhealthy side, if you offend them they are also not going to let it go lightly. They make formidable enemies and when their anger is triggered can go through great lengths to settle a score.

In love, a 7K tend to like something totally different. They are the ones who most likely have a partner of a difference race, different culture, different thinking, huge age gap and so on. There’s something distinctively different between them. Hence for such a ‘fierce’ profile, they are the few ones that are actually tolerant to differences. The only issue here is that they love challenges a bit too much that the thrill of the chase is more important than the person itself. To them the partner is a target, a prize, they haven’t really thought far enough as what to do with this prize once they conquer it. So if they are not careful they can end up chasing after/insisting on someone whom they didn’t want in the first place until their interest in them totally wears out.

If YOU are 7 Killings: You are usually rash – actually very rash and you don’t think too much before plunging into a relationship as long as it triggers your adrenaline rush. So to avoid chasing the wrong person over and over again, do try to take the time to get to know them first. Either that or you just like picking the one that is ‘too challenging’, ‘too problematic’, ‘too unattainable’ that you don’t know when to stop this heroism for your own good. Being a hero for someone is good, but when it comes to relationship you need to differentiate between bettering someone and saving someone. Your partner wants you to love them for who they are, not pity them for you to feel good about yourself. You’ll also attract freeloaders that way. For women, your boyfriend/partner is the most important person to you and you’d go through great lengths, no matter how high or how low for them.

The 7K favorite past time is actually triggering your partner’s anger or just irritating them for fun (sometimes very physical too), it makes you smile and you actually find their angry look really cute but they don’t see it that way….okay?

How to turn them on: Look good. 7 Killings profile usually likes someone who looks good and presents themselves well. Blow hot and cold with them and don’t give in. Argue with them, stand your ground and don’t give in – at least not so easily. It helps if you also enjoy adventure and are an adrenaline junkie and you can take ‘heart attacks’ really well. Be interesting. Do new and fun things every other day, keep things fresh and exciting. Although they are fierce generals, they secretly harbor a need to be controlled instead of being in control because they can be extremely rash without logic, so someone who can tactfully and subtly talk sense into them is greatly appreciated, as an Eating God would 🙂

How to turn them off: This is relatively easy because it’s quite easy to anger them. Bore them to death. Tell them you hate adventure or anything new and exciting. Be overbearing and refuse to follow their plans – drives them crazy. Shamelessly use them, I dare you 🙂 The attention span they have for you solely depends on their interest in you. If your test their patience a bit too much they will move on very quickly as well and almost never look back.

What to buy for them: Go flyboarding with them, bungee jumping or skydiving, hike the Everest, trips to exotic places. So a rugged GoPro or outdoor gear will come in handy for all their sporty activity. Anger management kit *laughs*.

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The 10 Gods Code: How To Love a Friend

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Friends (F) are also the lovable ones depending which side you’re standing on. They have everyone’s phone number on speed dial, they know almost everyone there is to know and are extremely popular, supportive, a genuine people-person. They crave creating meaningful connections and they recognize people’s talents very well, which makes them great co-workers, good friends but not necessarily a good life partner. Let’s see.

This is because even though Friends also have the ability to yield to public consensus, but subconsciously, the self always comes first – their reputation, how they are being seen, how they are perceived, this is very important to them. So this yielding does come with a purpose, if not a price tag. For the DO, everyone else (especially the authorities) comes first. For the Friend, me comes first. For this reason alone, the DO and F do compliment each other this way – the rest of the profiles are going to have to just get used to it. They are great networkers and are very resourceful when you want to pool a team with multiple skillsets together. The great thing about Friends is that self development is also very important to them. They constantly improve to be better and they love sharing this knowledge or skillset with those around them too. To them, everyone needs to grow.

On the unhealthy side, Friends can be very unapproachable and unsociable. They drastically fluctuate between a person who cannot live without someone else accompanying them to someone who enjoy their own space, their own routine a bit too much. They also carry an egoistic nature and a superior attitude over those who are different from them – they stick with their kind. They can be overly people pleasing as well and they care for the world what is being said about them. Hence instead of making life choices that benefit them, they instead opt for the choice that makes them more accepted. This is why, they need to learn how to pick partners that are actually good for their wellbeing, have their best interest at heart and not for their public persona or family/friends approval or the worst case, to soothe their own ego.

In love, a Friend likes something similar, or someone whom they also see something in themselves. If that’s not the case, then it will be someone whom they are able to help and assist in some way which in return makes them feel good about themselves. They feel that this is the way they are able to grow, together. What their partner says means the world to them and there shouldn’t be any circumstances that defeats their entire self confidence. Otherwise they find it difficult to function. Grow with them and they will always yield to what you want, be what you need and be your biggest supporter as well.

If YOU are Friend: Friends, I feel, are the most sensitive one, in a sense that you are quite touchy with any subject or criticism that concerns you even if it wasn’t malicious. You care too much about how people see you and what you represent. Therefore you end up overthinking your actions and are overly conscious with your next step just to avoid being seen in a certain way even if no one was paying attention in the first place. You constantly also compare yourself with others and you have a need to stay on par with your social circle. You get very miserable and moody if you’re seen as less or you can’t keep up even if you don’t show it outwardly. In a relationship, this is tiresome for your partner. If they can’t keep up, you resent them too. You’re also not very tolerant with the needs of others nor their differences in character which makes you quite difficult to be with.

How to turn them on: This is probably the easiest, just focus on them. I’m kidding. They’re not narcissistic, just a little bit self centered. But the fastest way to their heart is to blend in with whatever is important to them – especially their family and important friends. It helps if you can keep up with their social network or better still help them grow their network empire and make them look good, make them a better person. They are very likely to spend more time with their friends and social network than having private time with you, so you need to be understanding of that.

How to turn them off: Putting them down in front of others. Refusing to get along with those that are important to him. Criticize them about not fitting in with a gang or not being able to live up to certain social standards. This is seen as an attack to their self confidence and nothing upsets them more. Being demanding of their time and attention without caring about those around them. Being stubborn and unyielding to changes and self improvement. There’s one thing I noticed about a Friend profile is that when they look for you to talk about a problem, they actually want someone to patiently listen to them, as in a sounding board, a release and a support system. They are not really seeking for any advise from you as they most probably already know the solution themselves.

What to buy for them: Mirror *laughs and kidding*. Any spa or self pampering package will work very well for them. Self improvement courses of any kind or a gym/golf membership. Social dance classes, something you can do with a bunch of friends too.

Disclaimer:
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The 10 Gods Code: How To Love a Direct Officer

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Let’s face it, Direct Officer [DO]s are downright lovable. They are your support system, your cheerleader, your sounding board, your go-to person when you have problems. They listen to you without asking for anything in return. They are also very attentive to what you like, what you don’t like and already ready before you even ask for something. The only problem for a DO person is that usually no one does it for them in return because everyone else’s needs is more important than their own.

However because of this massive ability to yield, it sometimes makes them look slightly ‘spineless’ because they rarely want to be the one to make the big decisions, at least to lead the way – they need to be told what to do instead. But that being said, they are very high on morality and doing the right thing which is why they have a whole load of self induced values, principles and they stick to it no matter what. This is not linked to any decision making capabilities – if they had to make a decision, they always end up with the decision that pleases others instead of the actual purpose.

On the unhealthy side, they are definitely not proactive and it might be difficult to get an honest opinion from them because they only tell you the things that do not hurt your feelings not because of anything else but if they hurt your feelings, they hurt their own feelings too. On a battlefield, be it work or life, they retreat to their own safe place and will not take any sides if they are not required to.

In love, a DO is really easy to love because they are the ideal wife/husband material. They are supportive, listens to all your problems and tries to fix them before you even ask, provided you are the one who will set the pace, decide on both your life paths and make the big decisions. The DO will happily comply. It’s not that the DO can’t do it but they much prefer it to be done by someone they truly look up to and they will give their entire heart and soul to making it happen. What happens if both of you are DO? Take turns making the decision or set the areas where each will make their decision in and stick to it.

If YOU are Direct Officer: First and foremost you also have to realize that if you want to make a sacrifice for someone else, you cannot hold them accountable for any personal losses that comes with it. You have a tendency to be passive aggressive too, especially when your 1,001 values are challenged.  There are many ways to achieve the same result if you just open your mind to it and it’s really okay to not follow the stone cold ideals you had when it doesn’t even fit the current situation anymore. Lighten up. You also need to set the expectation upfront that you don’t really like to decide on the grand plans. You’re a natural follower and you always allow your partner to take charge and take the lead. Also don’t beat around the bush, if you like, don’t like or don’t want something just say it.

How to turn them on: The number 1 way to their heart, is to *sometimes* put them first. This will pleasantly surprise them and make them feel appreciated because their number 1 problem is being used by people, hence they secretly harbor lack of trust. DO structured females will always put their husbands first. Nothing else is more important than the husband which is why she better pick the right one. They are also natural followers but you still need to tell them everything upfront – the entire grand plan, the entire schedule with proper timing because they don’t really like midway surprises. If you want to surprise them you better make sure you’ve also prepared the things they would prepare for such situation. They can’t do anything ad hoc, well they can, provided you told them in advance that this is going to be ad hoc, then please update them again accordingly.

How to turn them off: Break your promise. Don’t keep your word. Nothing breaks their heart (and trust) more than this. If you said something, you better make sure you fulfill it. Making them break their principles – they might do it just to please you, but they will resent you for it. Do everything ad hoc without informing them of anything – drives them insanely nuts. Doing things in an improper or disrespectful manner, like breaking the rules and not conforming to certain social structure or legalities. Making them choose between mother and wife (or something similar) is also as good as shooting them in the foot.

What to buy for them: Anything to do with precise measurements *laughs* Actually flight simulation or pilot for a day adventures would be fun for them. Watches, sentimental objects, they are very heavy on sentiments. Girls with heavy DO actually like very cute, fluffy, colorful things – usually likes Pink a lot. For guys, the latest gadgets will work very well with them.

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.