The Qimen Method: Relationship Compatibility Part 1

Last year during one of my workshop I introduced a ‘testing’ Qimen compatibility theory using Stars which the students has feedback to me that it didn’t look quite right. So I’ve been researching on how to see Synastry using Qimen and this is the first finding, so far this has been pretty accurate.

The general theory when looking at Friendship or Like-mindedness is when 2 person share the same Destiny palace, at least the same Palace element – Wood and Wood, Fire and Fire, Water and Water, Earth and Earth, Metal and Metal. Producing cycle is still okay.

But when it comes to romantic relationships you should throw in another palace – this involves looking at your Destiny palace and your Relationship palace (6 Harmony) in your Destiny Chart, because that’s usually what you want or how you see and approach relationships. Having someone who has a destiny palace in your relationship palace shows someone you will be attracted to. Having someone who shares the same 6 Harmony palace as you shows someone who shares your same views in a relationship. Same Destiny with Same Relationship Palace is also okay. Note where the palaces and palace elements are.

For example in chart 1 and chart 2 below, Person 1 has the 6 Harmony in the South East palace, and Person 2 is a Destiny Palace of South East. Person 2 is the kind of person Person 1 looks for in a relationship – hence the attraction is high. Person 2’s 6 Harmony does not share the same palace but it still belongs to the same element – hence the natural attraction still there.

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When I say Natural Attraction, it just means that the relationship is easier and your tolerance level is higher caused by the like-mindedness in character and views of relationship. If you realize you don’t fit this criteria it just means that you have to exercise tolerance, understanding and give and take a bit more than those who have this. Furthermore relationship is the most complex subject of all and some people (especially those Day Master sitting on 7 Killings), does not like anything Easy anyways.

Producing palace is still okay, but this means one person is always giving more than the other. One very okay with giving and one very okay with taking while complaining – sounds quite normal to me – *laughs*.

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Problem Management Code: #2 Other People (a.k.a. Petty People)

Another favorite topic we get often is Petty People.

Once you’ve identified you are not the issue, there are certain scenarios where the theory ‘You attract what you are’ doesn’t apply and petty people is one of it. The higher you climb, the more petty people you’re going to have. The more successful you are the more haters you’re going to get. The stronger your cause the bigger the opposition. So on and so forth.

And you do get to choose if you want to blend in or stand out. There is no right or wrong here.

Sometimes you even attract people who reflect the areas you refuse to fix within yourself. Like finding a helper-cum-assistant who does the most parts you should be doing yourself and because of this, you are at their mercy and have to succumb to whatever they want even when you’re paying them. This is the difference between hiring someone who helps you and hiring someone who will make a fool out of you and does not have your best interest at heart. I also call these – Petty People.

But first let’s identify what causes you to attract petty people:

  1. Strong and unfavorable 7 Killings
  2. Unfavorable Hurting Officer (HO)
  3. Jia / Bing / Wu / Geng stems in the Month Pillar have higher chances
  4. Cascading Cloud
  5. Yin Sha
  6. White Tiger
  7. Five Ghost
  8. Hook Edge
  9. Robbery Sha

I will write more on these Shen Sha / Auxiliary stars later, for now we just want to identify if we have it or not. The thing about Shen Sha is that it can be used both ways – to put it mildly, if you were never a bitch, that particular year/luck pillar is definitely training you to be one.  Survival of the fittest so to speak. But what if you are like me and made a vow in the Taiwan Excursion to never turn like these people if and when you meet them?

Then what?

You’re right, you need protection. In Feng Shui you can continuously activate the Sun sector throughout the year (North in 2019) on good dates of course. This will not only bunk up your own Qi tremendously but attract the help of a lot of noblemen.

Activating the Nobleman and Likability sector of your home is also an alternative. A little help is always good in times like these.

In the cases of my IT colleagues who travels a lot and are never home, Qimen is their best bet. In Qimen it’s all about what you want to do and what is the outcome you want to achieve because it’s all about strategy.

  1. Subtle Mode: So if your plan is to peacefully convert all your enemies and nay-sayers back into your supporters, use the Jade maiden guarding the door
  2. Attack Mode: If you plan to expose conmen who deserve to be exposed or idiots who reversed a situation on you or to shed light on any wrongdoing that needs to be seen, you also need to be picking good Qimen dates – your best bet is the 3 Noble Rising:3NR.JPG
  3. Defense Mode: If your plan is to just remove all intentional obstructions to get back what has been robbed away or taken away from you, use the Double Deception. This will get you back on track. That would be the Yi/Bing/Ding in Rest/Life/Open door with 9 Earth. If you notice that after doing this all your opportunities miraculously reappear then you’ll know that you’ve been intentionally sabotaged the entire time. Another thing to note is that if you want to use this, you better make sure you’re quite pure-hearted and am sure you are the victim, because if you’ve been attacking others all the while and use this, it will backfire on you.

There’s more that I do love to play around with and have shared with clients who came in for consultations to use. Some formations are not meant to attack but gives you enough protection or defense to just be left alone doing your own thing. Sometimes, that is all we want. I believe anyone can continuously thrive without destroying anyone else in the process and that should be the way, but maybe it’s my Chief speaking ♥

Happy Trying!

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Problem Management Code: #1 Yourself

The very first step to solving any problem is… fixing yourself. And by fixing yourself I mean that you need to first, able to be in better control of your mindset. You’ve heard this phrase many times – The problem is not the problem, the problem is your view of the problem and this is extremely true.

This is the hardest yet most crucial step – admitting that WE are the problem. Have you ever realized that a lot of problems could be less of a problem if we just reacted differently? Have you ever realised that our baggages, past hurt and trauma that are conveniently swept under the rug shapes every single decision you’re going to make in life? Have you realised that everything is solvable the moment you don’t see having problems as a problem – perception is key.

Like I’ve had people coming to me asking how to get rid of their petty people all the time. My first question is are the petty people your boss? People who make crucial decisions on your career path? If no, why is that a problem and why do you react so easily to it? Do you want to get better? Climb higher? Earn more? Yes? Then it’s just going to be more and more petty people the higher you climb. So since you don’t like them very much, shall we not get better and don’t climb the ladder? Well, you decide who dictates your life then.

Another good example is when we’re talking about relationships, especially when you’ve just broken up. There are Five Stages of Closure: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and lastly Acceptance – which means forgiveness and letting go. And that means understanding that you may never understand why things happened the way they did and it’s okay. And you can’t get closure from any other person, only from yourself. There’s this really great guy I know whom I always ask why is his heart totally closed. He has been refusing to open up to deal with that wound and put it to rest.

This is an important step before embarking on any new relationships to those who just got out of one. We tend to attract our own energy patterns at that point in time and if we came out of a relationship distrustful and angry, if every partner was a cheater, if every partner refused to commit, guess what partner you’re going to attract next? And the next? And the next?

Yeap, exactly like that one.

And you know what happens when you don’t heal? You push all those people who genuinely love you away because your energy naturally repels and you keep those who keep using you. Do you know how much a person needs to love you in order to put up with your lashing out, being paranoid, being mean, being rude, being sad and the worst part of all, watching you be so unkind to yourself over something not very worth it. And you pushed them all away because you truly don’t believe you deserve them.

So how do we break out of this? People with high Eating God percentage are much better at solving problems, in fact they don’t even see problems as problems. In Qimen you can use the Chief with the Rest door (the higher the star level the better). Very much like the formation I just posted a few hours ago that looks like this:

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Sit there and manifest (here if you don’t know how) – that “I will release and heal from all past experiences, the past will no longer define me and I will hereon only allow all events to grow me, nurture me, increase my energy and shape me into the better person I am meant to be. I am full of life and I look forward to all things that are for my greater good

It may look so simple and easy. But everyone overlooks this very important step because it is painful and it takes a bit of time. So I dare you to try 🙂

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Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Qimen Method: Jade Maiden Guarding the Door 玉女守门

Fatal Attraction • An attraction between an individual and someone-something that is so strong the individual lacks reason and logic in their thinking when dealing with their attraction. The subject is often someone/something that will have a negative impact on the individual.

Okay maybe it is not all that morbid but when it comes to the formation of Jade Maiden Guarding the Door 玉女守门 it can be. In this post I’m only going to talk about the Qimen Destiny aspect and not the Strategic Execution aspect of this formation. If you have a Ding together with an Envoy Door anywhere in your Destiny chart, then you have a 玉女守门 formation with you. Advanced students can determine which area you can use it for but regardless you still have it in all aspects.

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Having this in your own destiny chart means extreme likability. You have an incredible ability to build a fan base, you are so likable that even your enemies will end up becoming your supporters/friends even if they do not admit it. Public figures, celebrities and influencers will greatly benefit from this formation as they are widely accepted by mass society. Also great for people to buy your ideas, forming movements and spreading your art, so to speak. In the ancient days, women with this formation has been known to cause fallen empires with emperors waging war just to win over the heart of the fair maiden.

So, having this formation also ensures that you’re never lack of suitors regardless of how you physically look like. The only problem is that there may be too many suitors, the kind that are overly attracted to you, all vying for your attention at the same time. In extreme cases this translates to stalking and obsession which is why it is not such a great formation when it comes to cultivating healthy love relationships. When a love so great is rejected or shunned, it turns into hatred – obsessive hatred – hence the fatal attraction and cause you a lot of losses and pain as well. Vicious cycle is it not? ♥

 

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Qimen Method: Walking The 7 Star Path

Ultimately for Qimen Students, the final step and most powerful thing you will eventually want to try out, is the 7 star path walk. Personally I’ve only done this 3 times (twice not for myself) and we don’t do this every other day – for very good reasons because there are some consequences that needs to be highlighted.

Qimen is the art of tapping/using/borrowing into universal energy to command it to do something for you. In very layman terms this is called the Law of Attraction. We get this question a lot, that when you ‘ask’ for something, do you need to return something? Offer something? Sacrifice something?

Firstly of all this is nothing religious, I maintain my view on metaphysics as a law of physics, the word even exist in it. So if you’re going to be using your own energy (Destiny Chart) to ask for something, there usually is no return needed – you are using whatever you have. But if you’re walking the 7 star path from the hour, day, month, year chart, this is seen as ‘borrowing the current energy’. Like you’re asking your best friend to loan his Ferrari that you do not have. He can charge you anything he wants to loan it – could be a meal or a next favor but yes, you do owe him one. You get my drift.

The 7 star path takes things up a few notches. You’re literally committing to get your outcome and you have to follow it through. Very much like signing a legal contract, you better make sure you keep your end of the contract. It’s better to state your own terms rather than let the Universe decide for you. And I don’t see ‘Doing more Charity’ as a sacrifice/return because Charity is, and should be, a way of life – not something you use as a bargaining chip when you want something.

The first 2 times I walked the 7 star path was in February, I did it for a few people who were important to me whom I had to help and this was the only way I know how. I didn’t state my own terms and left it to the Universe, so when the wish came true, I myself went into life threatening situations where my personal safety was compromised – like I inherited their Cascading Cloud and/or Robbery Sha instead on top of my own 7 Killings year – not once or twice but a few times from the very people I had trusted and still see regularly. So the 3rd time I walked again was April in Taiwan to cushion some of the blow at least enough to make sure I get pass a certain number of months, I’ve mentioned before that I wasn’t sure if I’d make it past this year. So this is why you should not simply do this walk unless completely necessary. And when doing for others, you better make sure that it’s something you really want to do – which I wholeheartedly did. If you asked me would I go back and do the same thing again? I’d do it again and again without blinking because it was that important to me and because my energy could especially when combined with the help of others. The best alternative is to just let others do it on their own. Some people told me that facilitators also repays in smaller ways but I’m seriously not sure. Life is very simple, do whatever you want to do wholeheartedly, or else don’t do it.

If you just want to try then you’d better try it at our Qimen events because we specifically pick Safe dates that has no consequences.

Do you have any 7 star path stories you’d like to share?

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Qimen Method: How To Win The Heart of ‘The One’ in 2019

“I realised I was thinking of you, and I began to wonder how long you’d been on my mind. Then it occurred to me, since I met you, you never left…”

This funny little thing called love. It can hit you when you least expect it to, anywhere, at your worst, at your best, at a time when you didn’t think you’ll trust anyone again, at a time when you’ve already sworn off all men/women so that they don’t hurt you anymore, ah, then it appears, just to test you and see if you’ve finally learnt all the lessons the universe has been trying to teach you all these while. I could almost hear the universe watching anxiously and asking itself ‘For the love of god universe, have you finally learned this time??’ 😂

So the conclusion is, humans, when it comes to the love department, tend to lose all rationality and brain function. So when shit hits the fan we turn into emotional wrecks, closing up our hearts because we never want to feel this crappy ever again. The one biggest mistake we can ever make is to let the hurt of your past relationship indirectly sabotage your current potential relationship. This creates that vicious cycle.

Then there is also that group of people who when in love totally freezes up, says the wrong things, do the wrong things, accidentally offend the love of your life and screws up everything like end up being blocked on Facebook *laughs*

Today I’m addressing this group of people (most likely the Pillars and some Grain too), who don’t have smooth pick up lines (because they are the all round straight laced good guys – and girls) and no longer want to screw up everything. If there is one thing I’ve learnt the hard way is that the more smooth talking the man, the more you should be careful in trusting him. In males it’s a bit different, I observed that men have a higher tendency to pick a wrong partner because most of them choose the one that feeds their insecurities in one way or another, regardless if this person is right for them or not OR they choose the one that imposed all the decision on them, and later realise they don’t like this. Personally I prefer the ones who put their foot in their mouth and have no clue what to do – a bit more direct and trustworthy. Same goes to the female for men.

So this is for you so that you don’t screw up again with this fantastic person you’ve just met. This is an advanced technique that you can use. If you have NO CLUE about Qimen whatsoever, kindly ignore the entire article and take a look at my How To Train your Deity series instead.

This technique takes a bit of effort because you do need to know the other person’s hour in order to plot their Qimen Destiny chart like below. If you don’t have the hour then we will use different methods that I’ll discuss on a different post.

The access to this chart will be given to you when you sign up for Qimen Academy which is launching very very soon

Secondly, just take note of the palace/direction of the 6 Harmony, which governs relationships, here the SouthEast.

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Then look at this 2019 Qimen Chart below and look for the SouthEast. You only need to take note of the Star, example here Destructor.

2019 Qimen Chart:

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So this year, this is what your special someone is looking for in their relationship, regardless of what they tell you. Your mission, which is to win their heart, is to at least know what to do. And this will only work in 2019, you have 6 months before we need to work on a different chart.
2019 Qimen Chart:

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2019 Stars:

So if their Star falls on:

Grain: Nurture

This year your partner or potential partner wants to be nurtured, taken care of. You need to constantly check on them, do things for them and be their biggest supporter, better still be their shoulder to cry on or sounding board.

Bird: Luxury

This year your partner or potential partner wants to taste the life on the high side. Take him/her on pleasure cruises, social parties, fine dining and shower them with sentimental gestures. Skip the roadside stalls or Malaysian favourite Mamak stalls for now.

Hero: Romantic.

This year your partner or potential partner wants to feel the romance with a capital R. Romantic walks in the park/beach, intimate restaurants, grand gestures like lighting 500 tealights with the words ‘I love you’ or strewn rose petals. The keyword here is not expensive, but well thought and meaningful.

Heart: Healing

This year your partner or potential partner is going to be confusing and this is not going to be easy for you. Either they have been really hurt and is taking their time to heal, so being compassionate or giving them space will really help. Yet they don’t want to be pitied, so they act like they only want to have commitment-less fun and look for excitement when it is not. Understanding them is going to be a chore so you are going to need a lot of patience to do this. It’s up to you to decide if they are worth the effort.

Destructor: Challenge

This year your partner or potential partner wants to feel the thrill of the chase. The men chasing and the female being chased. But both wants challenge this year so don’t be too easy. Blow hot and cold, mixed signals, drive them crazy and they will be the one running to you instead.

Assistant: Growth

This year your partner or potential partner wants to grow. They are all about being better, learning new things, having new experiences so travelling together is a good idea. You can ‘accidentally’ sign up the same course as them so that this gives you more time to learn together.

Ambassador: T-R-U-S-T

They most likely had it bad recently so this year they are learning to trust again. Don’t do things to hurt them or betray their trust, even if they are lashing out and are very sensitive/defensive about everything around them due to this lack of trust. Keep a check on them often to know if you’ve accidentally hurt them (cos you may not know it), and if you did, apologize and find ways to earn their trust again.

Pillar: Connection

This year your partner or potential partner wants to connect or reconnect. They want things direct and as transparent as possible if not they can be quite passive aggressive. So open communication is key to getting in the heart of those with Pillar in their 6 Harmony palace this year.

Grass: Sensuality

This year your partner or potential partner is more sexual than usual. Regardless of the status, they will be more touchy feely than usual. So tucking her hair when you talk to her will most likely excite her as much as accidentally brushing your finger against his thigh will excite him. Wear something that really flatters your physicality when going out with them. They long for a physical connection on top of an emotional one.

Have a great year and may you find the love you’re looking for ♥

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.