The Qimen Method: Qimen Destiny and Career Challenges

Recently I did a number of Qi Men consults and there was one that really caught my eye because although people can tell you that they go through a lot of work challenges, the moment I looked at her chart I was kind of thrown off. It was a 7 Star Ferocious White Tiger Formation (near death but not dead) also with a White Tiger deity in her Qimen Career palace. The first thing I said was wow, your enemies are really vicious – the powerful kind that would go out of their way to kill off her career. Unfortunately she’s also a Gui day master with a Cascading Cloud this year. She just casually nodded.

The thing about charts is that, you can actually use it both ways – meaning you can choose to be the Ferocious White Tiger first. But this is where a consultant comes in, I need to identify which side (the light or the dark) was she on at the moment. I looked at her chart, I looked at her, a person who doesn’t even like to be involved in politics to begin with but is constantly dragged into it.

If that is not bad enough, her Career palace produces her Karmic palace – the lessons you need to learn in this lifetime – which I won’t divulge everything but there was Destructor and Red Phoenix Dive Into River formation which means each time someone uses her as a scapegoat or takes her down (can also mean some were her own lapse of judgement and unwillingness to yield) she will get so upset that she leaves. She will let go and demolish everything she has built in her career and just leave – which is the lesson she’s supposed to learn or life will make her keep rebooting her career again and again until she learns this – How NOT to leave every time someone pisses you off. I realize people do these a lot these days (but I was also guilty of it once upon a time) – You’re not going to be in a perfect career all the time and there are things you will need to fix, FIX it instead of giving up so easily. At the very least, pause before you react.

Thankfully, we’re in metaphysics and there are multiple ways we can do this – you can either tweak your Feng Shui to increase your own energy level or the best tool ever in these situations – Qimen. There are a number of formations you can actually use for self defense – which is either taught in class or shared in consultations when we see fit – the one that I share the most apart from the Double Deception is also a huge upgrade of your own perception of the word ‘Problems’ – use your Chief/9 Heavens/Moon to learn how to embrace problems. Now that you know Qimen, go AROUND it, not run away or head butt it further. Embrace, Learn, Grow, Control. If you run from your lessons, your lessons will run after you again and again.

And in her case, it’s her Karmic lesson. You can’t keep quitting no matter how bad it gets, and it can get really bad. But looking back, is it worth it? Is losing everything you’ve built throughout your years of blood and sweat worth it? If your answer is no, fight the hell back ♥

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Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

 

‘It’s Okay to Not be Okay’: The Guide to Getting Out of Depression

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I’m writing about this because too many people have either been asking for advise on this or they are in depression but don’t really know how to handle and get out of it and I’ve noticed a substantial increase of this issue among my social circle and a general sense that this pattern is going to stay around till next year. The scariest form of depression are not those who admit it, it’s those who still smile and look happy yet are suffering internally.

No one likes to talk about mental health but this is absolutely necessary – especially now. So if you notice someone around you who are displaying these signs you need to keep an eye on them:

  1. A general feeling of apathy and no drive in what used to excite them
  2. Unable to get out of bed hence always missing at work/social appointments or are always late.
  3. Not concerned about their appearance and a major drop in work performance
  4. Sudden loss or gain of weight
  5. Appearing too happy or always laughing/joking about everything. The unhappier they are, the more they laugh while totally avoiding the serious/emotional stuff (think Robin Williams).
    People who are truly happy are exceptionally calm, not exceptionally smiley.
  6. Sudden mood swing from happy laughter to being sarcastic and mean. One moment they seem friendly, the other moment they are very inconsiderate to others.
  7. Beginning to display self destructive behavior – excessive smoking, drinking, sex, gambling. They even see it as normal because they don’t think something better is possible for them. So they almost never seek help.
  8. Tired and lacklustre eyes (from lack of sleep and also apathy)

Ironically some people look better and better (you can see it from their facial features and glow compared to the past) and they tell me they are having depression – to me, this particular situation is actually a spiritual awakening and something that is heading for the better, hence this blah feeling will only be temporary. The ones you need to worry about at the ones that are looking worse by the day, with a black/green tinge to their skin tone.

Metaphysically how do you detect depression? Depression is a loss of clarity when things are on a downward spiral, when you see no way out (or up) to your solution and you don’t talk about it at all because you’re not even sad or angry, you’re just numb.

  1. In Metaphysics this is closely linked to the Earth element, the 1 element that loves to keep everything to themselves – which is still okay until they see a subsequent amount of water (And vice versa). We term this as “contamination” or a shrouded mind where clarity is no longer present.
  2. The Sky Cry and Sword Edge Star. If it came in annually then we call this ‘temporary depression’. This year almost 80% of people I’ve met have a Goat [Sky Cry] in their internal palaces – so I remind them that this is just a 1 year depression and it will get better. Knowing this alone made them feel much more hopeful.
  3. Among all the 10 Gods the ones that don’t talk too much and/or overthink are the Resource heavy people and unhealthy Eating Gods.
  4. Solitary and Lonesome stars also keep a lot to themselves and should guard against overthinking.
  5. Horse-Rat clash: This denotes a person who is fickle and lacks peace of mind / clarity. This may or may not translate to depression, but they definitely lack clarity.
  6. Unhealthy or missing Fire element. Fire is the zest of life, having no or unhealthy fire lessens your will to live.
  7. Your hour pillar is in Fan Yin.


If you (or your close ones) are going through this and can’t seem to get out of it, what can you do?

  1. It’s okay to admit that you’re not okay.
  2. Remove yourself from the problem area. If it involves people, remove yourself from the toxic people. We want to contain the issue, so don’t go running elsewhere and create bigger issues you don’t need right now.
  3. People with depression cannot get out of bed. So make it a point to force yourself up everyday. Just get out, even if it’s just a walk and then back home, but establish a consistent wake up time to catch the morning sun and a good breakfast.
  4. Stop any high risk activities, like aerial silk, solo abseiling, maybe freediving or any high risk activities that requires your own judgement.
  5. It’s okay to fluctuate between doing okay and then relapsing back to gloom. Just don’t stay there.
  6. Learn something new, pick up something you need to learn or train on a weekly basis. That will establish a consistent pattern for awhile.
  7. Have 1 particular focus. A competition, a book, a fitness goal, something you need to accomplish and it’s okay if you screw up too. Just have that 1 focus point that you can work towards on a daily basis.

Let’s face it, when you’re in depression it’s difficult getting out of it without some external help for that extra boost, so in terms of Metaphysics [Heaven|Earth|Man], these are some things you can do:

Qimen: The deity that governs Faith, Hope in the future is 9 Heaven. This month’s (Oct) 9 Heaven is in the SouthEast. Have your back SouthEast and repeat the following “I am worthy. I am good enough. I love life, things will only get better and I will never give up” Do this everyday for a month and see yourself start to change (Once the chart changes on Nov 8, back face West instead)

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Feng Shui: Look for your Sheng Qi direction and have your desk or bed (top of the head) face that direction

Intervention: Find someone who is their Nobleman to talk to them. My best friend, also my nobleman/useful god, coaxed me to accompany her to a Joey Yap seminar back in 2010 which ultimately shaped my future. For those who are worried about your friends, always check on them. Be their support system by giving them things to do (1 focus point) or just keep them busy out of the house, either dancing or just hanging out till they are much better.

Lastly keep moving forward even if you can’t see what’s ahead. Take baby steps if you must because no storm lasts forever. After all, depression is also the last spiritual journey to enlightenment as long as you don’t give up. You’ll thank yourself someday 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

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The Qimen Method: SE Case Study – Increasing Sales

The other day I posted a brief case study on my Facebook page (in case you are not following my Facebook Page – Mind Your Qi by Mindy Yoong – please do as I share more information on that Page than I do on this blog) about a good friend who called me up to thank me because when we met up last week, he complained about an empty shop and asked if there’s anything that could be done to boost up the number of customers. So when I made him manifest something from that hour’s chart, it worked. Now everyone wants to know how/when/why/what/who which I didn’t have enough time to explain in a short post.

This is a big deal for me because this is the first time he actually called to thank me. My years and years of trying to convince him of Qi Men, he didn’t even thank me when we bought a 4D ticket together based on Qimen and won (I won’t be explaining this). THIS, he finally thanked me.

First thing that comes into people’s minds –> Is this even real or not? So easy?? Maybe just a coincidence? Why hasn’t it worked for me?

When it comes to Strategic Execution there are a couple of rules and pre-requisites. If you can’t meet them, you won’t see results. Period.

This was the chart I used when I paid him a visit at that hour –>

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Background: My good friend – one of the biggest skeptic in the world – has a destiny Surging Snake that he doesn’t know about, has very strong martial arts background but zero knowledge of QiMen, so his personal Qi is high to begin with and he CAN feel energy because he is a destiny Surging Snake, he says he sees colors and I’ve personally watched his eyelids flutter when I make him tap into energy. I love using him as my ‘Qi radar’ because I trust him enough to tell me what he feels exactly in different directions without knowing what on earth I’m doing.. *laughs*

Q: Why did I pick South? and not South West (Or East)

A: To be fair I made my friend try the South West first, I didn’t like SW or E because it was a Delusion/Rest door, not great for increasing Sales unless you already have clients you want to lock in. But I wanted his feedback. He stood there for a good 30 seconds, all restless to tell me… nope. Nothing. I said “Nothing?? It’s a 6 star Chief…”. “Nope…..no feeling”. Fine. So I moved him to the Snake palace with the more appropriate Harm door without any prior explanation. And he went all “Oooo…ahhh….disco lights” so I left him there to do his thing. I think this is because he is familiar with his own energy, hence the Surging Snake and also Harm door and also Destructor – matches his own chart entirely. And since he was using the Snake, I asked him to shift the dull energy of the entire shop – manifest vibrant thoughts and customers who will come in happy and leave happier. Surging Snakes have the ability to flip the energy of an entire room.

Pre-requisite:

Use whatever you are comfortable with even if it’s not what you presume to be the best formation. If you don’t trust the feeling, it won’t work. It does really help if you can do some meditation or energy tapping techniques. If not, use the Active Method like making calls, sending emails or posting promotions.

Q: Why pick Harm door? 

A: Harm door represents hunting for something, finding something and that includes Leads and Sales. We pick what suits our objective.

Pre-requisite:

You need to know what you want or at least identify the root cause to know what to use in the first place. If in doubt, consult us.

Q: Why look at the Door if we’re manifesting? Isn’t it unnecessary?

Yes, it’s not really required, but Qimen loves specifics. If you can be more specific, the faster the desired outcome will be. It’s like telling your Uber Driver: I want to go to the airport but I’m not sure which terminal but we’ll find out when we get there. Versus: I want to go directly to Gate 4 of Terminal 3, International Airport, thanks. Which one is clearer and faster? Personally, I look at everything, including the Hexagram.

Pre-requisite:

Knowing that this is just a temporary quick fix and that you need to follow up with subsequent actions that will lead to long term results. It opens the door, but you have to do the work to stay in the room.

Last Pre-requisite:

I believe a lot in affinity. There were also a few consults I did where what they complained about could be solved with that hour’s Qimen chart and it did – it’s their affinity with the solution. Some may need to wait longer than others.

 

The Final Touch:

There is a final touch that I commonly use and I only use it if and when needed, that is my 7 star Phoenix mouth. Not sure how much it factored in, but I’d like to think it did a fair bit.

 

Happy Trying! ♥

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Qimen Method: Relationship Compatibility Part 1

Last year during one of my workshop I introduced a ‘testing’ Qimen compatibility theory using Stars which the students has feedback to me that it didn’t look quite right. So I’ve been researching on how to see Synastry using Qimen and this is the first finding, so far this has been pretty accurate.

The general theory when looking at Friendship or Like-mindedness is when 2 person share the same Destiny palace, at least the same Palace element – Wood and Wood, Fire and Fire, Water and Water, Earth and Earth, Metal and Metal. Producing cycle is still okay.

But when it comes to romantic relationships you should throw in another palace – this involves looking at your Destiny palace and your Relationship palace (6 Harmony) in your Destiny Chart, because that’s usually what you want or how you see and approach relationships. Having someone who has a destiny palace in your relationship palace shows someone you will be attracted to. Having someone who shares the same 6 Harmony palace as you shows someone who shares your same views in a relationship. Same Destiny with Same Relationship Palace is also okay. Note where the palaces and palace elements are.

For example in chart 1 and chart 2 below, Person 1 has the 6 Harmony in the South East palace, and Person 2 is a Destiny Palace of South East. Person 2 is the kind of person Person 1 looks for in a relationship – hence the attraction is high. Person 2’s 6 Harmony does not share the same palace but it still belongs to the same element – hence the natural attraction still there.

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When I say Natural Attraction, it just means that the relationship is easier and your tolerance level is higher caused by the like-mindedness in character and views of relationship. If you realize you don’t fit this criteria it just means that you have to exercise tolerance, understanding and give and take a bit more than those who have this. Furthermore relationship is the most complex subject of all and some people (especially those Day Master sitting on 7 Killings), does not like anything Easy anyways.

Producing palace is still okay, but this means one person is always giving more than the other. One very okay with giving and one very okay with taking while complaining – sounds quite normal to me – *laughs*.

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Problem Management Code: #2 Other People (a.k.a. Petty People)

Another favorite topic we get often is Petty People.

Once you’ve identified you are not the issue, there are certain scenarios where the theory ‘You attract what you are’ doesn’t apply and petty people is one of it. The higher you climb, the more petty people you’re going to have. The more successful you are the more haters you’re going to get. The stronger your cause the bigger the opposition. So on and so forth.

And you do get to choose if you want to blend in or stand out. There is no right or wrong here.

Sometimes you even attract people who reflect the areas you refuse to fix within yourself. Like finding a helper-cum-assistant who does the most parts you should be doing yourself and because of this, you are at their mercy and have to succumb to whatever they want even when you’re paying them. This is the difference between hiring someone who helps you and hiring someone who will make a fool out of you and does not have your best interest at heart. I also call these – Petty People.

But first let’s identify what causes you to attract petty people:

  1. Strong and unfavorable 7 Killings
  2. Unfavorable Hurting Officer (HO)
  3. Jia / Bing / Wu / Geng stems in the Month Pillar have higher chances
  4. Cascading Cloud
  5. Yin Sha
  6. White Tiger
  7. Five Ghost
  8. Hook Edge
  9. Robbery Sha

I will write more on these Shen Sha / Auxiliary stars later, for now we just want to identify if we have it or not. The thing about Shen Sha is that it can be used both ways – to put it mildly, if you were never a bitch, that particular year/luck pillar is definitely training you to be one.  Survival of the fittest so to speak. But what if you are like me and made a vow in the Taiwan Excursion to never turn like these people if and when you meet them?

Then what?

You’re right, you need protection. In Feng Shui you can continuously activate the Sun sector throughout the year (North in 2019) on good dates of course. This will not only bunk up your own Qi tremendously but attract the help of a lot of noblemen.

Activating the Nobleman and Likability sector of your home is also an alternative. A little help is always good in times like these.

In the cases of my IT colleagues who travels a lot and are never home, Qimen is their best bet. In Qimen it’s all about what you want to do and what is the outcome you want to achieve because it’s all about strategy.

  1. Subtle Mode: So if your plan is to peacefully convert all your enemies and nay-sayers back into your supporters, use the Jade maiden guarding the door
  2. Attack Mode: If you plan to expose conmen who deserve to be exposed or idiots who reversed a situation on you or to shed light on any wrongdoing that needs to be seen, you also need to be picking good Qimen dates – your best bet is the 3 Noble Rising:3NR.JPG
  3. Defense Mode: If your plan is to just remove all intentional obstructions to get back what has been robbed away or taken away from you, use the Double Deception. This will get you back on track. That would be the Yi/Bing/Ding in Rest/Life/Open door with 9 Earth. If you notice that after doing this all your opportunities miraculously reappear then you’ll know that you’ve been intentionally sabotaged the entire time. Another thing to note is that if you want to use this, you better make sure you’re quite pure-hearted and are sure you are the victim, because if you’ve been attacking others all the while and use this, it will backfire on you.

There’s more that I do love to play around with and have shared with clients who came in for consultations to use. Some formations are not meant to attack but gives you enough protection or defense to just be left alone doing your own thing. Sometimes, that is all we want. I believe anyone can continuously thrive without destroying anyone else in the process and that should be the way, but maybe it’s my Chief speaking ♥

Happy Trying!

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Problem Management Code: #1 Yourself

The very first step to solving any problem is… fixing yourself. And by fixing yourself I mean that you need to first, able to be in better control of your mindset. You’ve heard this phrase many times – The problem is not the problem, the problem is your view of the problem and this is extremely true.

This is the hardest yet most crucial step – admitting that WE are the problem. Have you ever realized that a lot of problems could be less of a problem if we just reacted differently? Have you ever realised that our baggages, past hurt and trauma that are conveniently swept under the rug shapes every single decision you’re going to make in life? Have you realised that everything is solvable the moment you don’t see having problems as a problem – perception is key.

Like I’ve had people coming to me asking how to get rid of their petty people all the time. My first question is are the petty people your boss? People who make crucial decisions on your career path? If no, why is that a problem and why do you react so easily to it? Do you want to get better? Climb higher? Earn more? Yes? Then it’s just going to be more and more petty people the higher you climb. So since you don’t like them very much, shall we not get better and don’t climb the ladder? Well, you decide who dictates your life then.

Another good example is when we’re talking about relationships, especially when you’ve just broken up. There are Five Stages of Closure: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and lastly Acceptance – which means forgiveness and letting go. And that means understanding that you may never understand why things happened the way they did and it’s okay. And you can’t get closure from any other person, only from yourself. There’s this really great guy I know whom I always ask why is his heart totally closed. He has been refusing to open up to deal with that wound and put it to rest.

This is an important step before embarking on any new relationships to those who just got out of one. We tend to attract our own energy patterns at that point in time and if we came out of a relationship distrustful and angry, if every partner was a cheater, if every partner refused to commit, guess what partner you’re going to attract next? And the next? And the next?

Yeap, exactly like that one.

And you know what happens when you don’t heal? You push all those people who genuinely love you away because your energy naturally repels and you keep those who keep using you. Do you know how much a person needs to love you in order to put up with your lashing out, being paranoid, being mean, being rude, being sad and the worst part of all, watching you be so unkind to yourself over something not very worth it. And you pushed them all away because you truly don’t believe you deserve them.

So how do we break out of this? People with high Eating God percentage are much better at solving problems, in fact they don’t even see problems as problems. In Qimen you can use the Chief with the Rest door (the higher the star level the better). Very much like the formation I just posted a few hours ago that looks like this:

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Sit there and manifest (here if you don’t know how) – that “I will release and heal from all past experiences, the past will no longer define me and I will hereon only allow all events to grow me, nurture me, increase my energy and shape me into the better person I am meant to be. I am full of life and I look forward to all things that are for my greater good

It may look so simple and easy. But everyone overlooks this very important step because it is painful and it takes a bit of time. So I dare you to try 🙂

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Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

The Qimen Method: Jade Maiden Guarding the Door 玉女守门

Fatal Attraction • An attraction between an individual and someone-something that is so strong the individual lacks reason and logic in their thinking when dealing with their attraction. The subject is often someone/something that will have a negative impact on the individual.

Okay maybe it is not all that morbid but when it comes to the formation of Jade Maiden Guarding the Door 玉女守门 it can be. In this post I’m only going to talk about the Qimen Destiny aspect and not the Strategic Execution aspect of this formation. If you have a Ding together with an Envoy Door anywhere in your Destiny chart, then you have a 玉女守门 formation with you. Advanced students can determine which area you can use it for but regardless you still have it in all aspects.

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Having this in your own destiny chart means extreme likability. You have an incredible ability to build a fan base, you are so likable that even your enemies will end up becoming your supporters/friends even if they do not admit it. Public figures, celebrities and influencers will greatly benefit from this formation as they are widely accepted by mass society. Also great for people to buy your ideas, forming movements and spreading your art, so to speak. In the ancient days, women with this formation has been known to cause fallen empires with emperors waging war just to win over the heart of the fair maiden.

So, having this formation also ensures that you’re never lack of suitors regardless of how you physically look like. The only problem is that there may be too many suitors, the kind that are overly attracted to you, all vying for your attention at the same time. In extreme cases this translates to stalking and obsession which is why it is not such a great formation when it comes to cultivating healthy love relationships. When a love so great is rejected or shunned, it turns into hatred – obsessive hatred – hence the fatal attraction and cause you a lot of losses and pain as well. Vicious cycle is it not? ♥

 

 

Disclaimer:
The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.