The Bazi Method: How We Behave After A Break Up

I’ve been chatting with a friend lately who is eagerly trying to understand their other half better so that their arguments can be reduced to a much healthier level. I love it when people take the time and effort to really understand how their partners function and why. After all, this is the entire reason why I came up with the How To Love series in the first place. I realized in this day and age, empathy and willingness to understand someone else is continuously lacking and will continue to worsen so I consider this my effort to help everyone and anyone to find that middle ground.

So it got to a point where we were talking about how our past really CAN screw up the potential/present relationship. And that led us to talk about past relationships, ex-s and how we actually deal with them. Hopefully by understanding this, we can see some patterns that we can rectify and manage. At the very least, never let your past dictate your future and most importantly, don’t dump your past baggage onto your next great relationship. The other person does not deserve this and certainly does not want you to repeat your vicious cycles also.

So let’s see what we’re looking at today. Open up your chart:

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This is your Relationship Palace, so there can be 1, 2 or 3 stems. The one in Red (Main- Qi) will always dominate. The blue (Sub-Qi) are traits you also carry but not as strong as the Main Qi. So you can read them together but the Red will always dominate.

Just look at the 10 Gods to determine how you will behave after a breakup:


Direct Officer (DO): Direct officer people are quite hard on themselves after a breakup. Because you don’t understand how giving up and sacrificing almost everything for someone you love can lead to this. So the keyword is: Self-forgiveness. The other thing is don’t fall for their excuses or asking of favors anymore. Because after breakup if they come back or ask you for something, you still graciously comply out of pity or being nice and it’s a good thing that you still know how to set proper boundaries.

7 Killings (7K): When in a relationship 7 Killings people will go all out and do almost everything that can be done. Because they are warriors they are also the ones to stay to fight out every relationship issues with all the battle scars to show for even when it’s clear they should stop. So once they are done, they are really done. There is no turning back. Don’t push them to a point of no return if this is not your intention. Because after a breakup, they cut all ties and will act like the person never existed. Your keyword is to Remove Resentment.

Direct Resource (DR): After a break up, the poor Direct Resource will retreat to reverse engineer every single event that lead to the break up. Every single word, every action to analyse what went wrong. What you could have done? What if this? What if that? Relationship matters are the most difficult to analyse with logic or even common sense so don’t try to. Detach and take it as an additional lesson in life.

Indirect Resource (IR): This one… resorts to denial. Before a breakup they assume that there is no issue and after a break up they also assume the break up never happened. They take a long time to let it sink in and will still cling on to the ex, which is not a very good thing. So your keyword is Acceptance. Move on and learn from the experience. Don’t believe that you will not find the same feeling ever again or you’re setting yourself up for a vicious negative cycle.

Friend (F): When a Friend breaks up they still want to keep everyone as their friend. They think it’s okay to keep everyone around and still do the things they used to do. Their reasoning is that there should not be any hard feelings with anyone but this actually becomes a nightmare for their next partner. So your keyword is Boundaries. Create healthier boundaries with your space and time and love yourself enough to draw a line with the people who didn’t serve your best interest at a point in time. It will eat into your own self esteem if you keep doing that.

Rob Wealth (RW): The thing about Rob Wealth is that the moment they break up, all hell breaks loose. As in, the first thing they do is go out partying like there’s no tomorrow, participate in some sort of vice or they immediately move on by hooking up with the next Rebound guy/girl. The thing about getting a Rebound guys/girls as soon as you break up is that your energy is already at that level, and you’re bound to attract one that is as bad (or even way worse) than your ex. So your keyword is Solitude. Spend some time by yourself, being comfortable with yourself and in no time you’ll be attracting someone way better.

Hurting Officer (HO): Most Hurting Officers have very dramatic breakups. Their arguments can usually escalate to a shouting match as well. So when it’s over, like the 7 Killings, it’s really over. Almost all Hurting Officers sees breakups as a big blow to their self confidence so no, they won’t keep in touch with the ex at all. If anything they already deleted your number and removed you off all social media. So your keyword is: Don’t take it personal

Eating God (EG): Eating God is interesting and also scary at the same time. Because when they were in love with you they knew all the right buttons to press. Now that they’re no longer in love with you, they also know all the wrong buttons to press, just for the heck of it. So if you have an Eating God ex that you’re keeping around for some weird reason, do bear in mind that when the right time comes about, they will find ways and means to sabotage your life. Have fun 🙂 To the Eating God, please exercise: Self Control

Direct Wealth (DW): Direct Wealth people don’t take failures very well. They take it as a huge personal defeat and take an extremely LONG time to get over it. What they can’t get over is that lost of trust and not knowing what is there to trust anymore. Like the Hurting Officer it’s also a huge bruise to their ego. They don’t admit it and look like they’ve gotten over it but have not. So you need to be more in touch with your own feelings instead of lashing out through other means, to other people who don’t deserve to be lashed out on. You can turn very bitter and continuously trying to still prove you are right, so your keyword would be: Release and Let go.

Indirect Wealth (IW): Indirect Wealth people always act like it’s the end of the world – but to be fair, in their own world they do see it as over. So they lock up their hearts and turn cold towards the world as if the entire world owed them something or did them wrong. Then they pretend as if they are heartless and are okay with it like they are resigned to fate and gave up entirely. I don’t know why? So your key word is: Have Faith. Indirect Wealth usually totally give up because they don’t believe they’ll find that sort of passion anymore. You can’t be more wrong.

The information in this page/blog is meant to supplement, not replace, proper metaphysics training. Readers should consult a certified consultant for proper diagnosis of their entire chart/life issues. Past events, locales and conversations may have been reconstructed in order to maintain anonymity. Any resemblance to an actual person, living or dead, or actual events (unless specified) is purely coincidental.

How To Love: Yourself

You know I’ve been writing so much on my How to Love series, teaching people how to understand and love someone else, but I keep forgetting the most important thing ever, that none of that will matter if we don’t know how to love ourselves.

How many times have you settled for a relationship that is less than what you deserve? How many times have you stayed in one way passed its time? How much time have you wasted by just not knowing that you are worthy of more than those who disrespect you for no reason at all. How many times had you let people just push your around without caring about what you wanted? Or had anyone tell you how to live your life or give you look about your tattoos or just for being different?

If you’re the one guilty of judging I hope that you will find compassion some day and to those who are being judged I want you to tell yourself this, find your Day Master and love yourself for who you are. Be proud, stand tall and you are enough and it’s my job to remind you.

Jia : “I am [Name here]. I am stubborn. I am unyielding. I am loyal to a fault. I take care of everyone like they are my family. I have willpower. I am principled. I love helping people grow. I love bettering myself. I defend to death those I love. I am proudly Jia Wood”

Yi: “I am [Name here]. I change my views with the wind. I use people to get what I want. I am very insecure. But I know give and take. I always bend to please everyone else. I can take any hardship. I can survive anything and thrive. I’m great to talk to. I come up with the greatest ideas. I’m creative. I am proudly Yi Wood”

Bing: “I am [Name here]. I always feel like no one understands me or my actions are not appreciated. I sometimes think I’m better than everyone else. But I am independent. I am self sufficient. I am most giving and I never ask for anything in return. I radiate warmth and light. I will try to be more approachable. I am proudly Bing Fire”

Ding: “I am [Name here]. I always burn myself to please everyone first and I don’t mind. I am fickle minded. I am emotional and constantly need attention. But I am wise and giving. I accept and love people for who they are. I am funny. I light up people’s lives and care about their well being. I will learn to put myself first. I am proudly Ding Fire”

Wu: “I am [Name here]. I am stubborn. I am immovable. It’s my way or the highway. I do not give in and I expect people to listen to me. But I am caring. I love my family. I protect my family. I am trustworthy and I can listen to and encourage you an entire night. I will try to change for the better. I am proudly Wu Earth”

Ji: “I am [Name here]. I am the poster child for cultivating self-love because I am too giving to the point of being a doormat. I am also stubborn but I am nurturing. I am protective of those I love and I care for their every needs. I have great instincts and I am resourceful. I am the embodiment of the word – Kindness and Compassion. I will value myself more. I am proudly Ji Earth”

Geng: “I am [Name here]. I am blunt with my words. When I’m angry I’m a force to be reckoned with. I am rough, tough and will do whatever it takes to get things done. I am ruthless. But I am loyal. I can take the most pressure. I am not afraid of hard work. I will take care and spend more time with my friends and family. I am proudly Geng Metal”

Xin: “I am [Name here]. I am vain. My face value and image is most important. I can be a drama queen and dislike criticism but I am loving. I spoil and care for those I love. I am leader. I am an influencer. I am encouraging and I want to make the world a better place. I am a great, confident speaker. I am proudly Xin Metal”

Ren: I am [Name here]. I hide my emotions well and I am difficult to understand. I can have a temper. I am blunt and honest. I am moody. I am pessimistic. But I am highly intelligent. I am resourceful. I am adaptable. I am sociable. I’m innovative and constantly adding value to the world. I will try to open up more to people. I am proudly Ren Water”

Gui: I am [Name here]. I am (look) arrogant. I am temperamental. I am difficult to lock down. I am freaking impatient and I love my freedom/change way too much. But I am most intuitive and I give to see others grow. I can read people just by feeling their energy. I am wise and I absorb knowledge with ease. I care deeply for those I love and I am patient with them. I will try to cultivate more discipline in thought and in action. I am proudly Gui Water”.

I think there’s enough of hatred in the world and it’s tiring. If there’s one thing we should be spreading, it’s always and ALWAYS, love.

And as usual, there are other components that makes up a person and you may resonate with another Stem that is actually a high healthy percentage in your chart more than your own.

“I am Mindy Yoong. I am kind and giving to a fault and I let nothing stop me from what I believe in. I am temperamental, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I have a ferocious fighting spirit and I love that about myself.” And a big thank you to those who keep reminding me that. So please share with me, what is it that you love about yourself?